You had something else you had. Not because he is picking on you, but because he cares about you. You can avoid this situation in the future by beginning to say "no." 1, whether you can't do everything because you've said "yes" to so many people, or because of all of the commitments of your busy life, tell yourself that it's impossible for you. I have rarely been able to say no to panhandlers. Free Essays 1523 words (4.4 pages) - The Lesson by Toni Cade Bambara The Lesson, by Toni Cade Bambara, portrays a group of children living in the slums of New York City around 1972. I'd love to hear all about." Community Q A Search Add New Question Question I'm pretty sure my boyfriend is seeing someone else. Also, when you have the capability to listen to his problems and be a positive influence. Other posts on, the Friendship Blog about saying NO: Saying NO to friends, saying No to a friends isn't easy. It became evident that the actress was not going to pay back her friend. Is this the way you really want to be perceived?" It is remarkable the amount of healing that can happen when we speak honestly with each other.